Learning to trust yourself again 💕

Hi friend,

One of the hardest parts of healing from past relationships, is learning to trust ourselves again.

If we’ve played out patterns in relationships that led to heartbreak and pain, it makes absolute sense that there would be fear in trusting ourselves again.

This is a huge opportunity to dive deeper into connection with yourself and regain your own trust; through forgiveness and self-compassion.

Remember that every path you’ve walked, every choice you’ve made has been necessary to bring you here.

The fact that you even feel cautious means you’re waking up to the patterns that no longer serve you.

You are capable of healing and creating healthy love.

You can learn to trust yourself again. To listen to that quiet whisper when she speaks to you, to your intuition, your body, your heart.

We repeat patterns that are familiar even if they hurt because they feel safer than the unknown.

You’re not broken or incapable of healing or creating conscious love.

No matter how many times you’ve lost yourself, the choices you’ve made and the path you’ve walked has led you here.

Layer by layer, you are shedding old skin, reclaiming what was lost and remembering who you are.

Love is infinite within you and you do not have to work to earn it, you simply need to remember that it is rightfully yours and then let it in.

No more choosing familiar pain over unknown happiness and bliss.

No more holding back or hiding from the true expression that begs to be birthed through you.

No more burying your essence beneath layers of guilt and shame.

You are waking up, and it’s never too late.

Inside Today’s Newsletter:

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✨ A Practice + Journaling Prompts: For returning to your inner knowing + rebuilding trust with yourself.

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🌿 This Weeks Reflection

Trust is rebuilt in the small, brave moments where you choose yourself.

✨ Practice for the Week: Returning to Your Inner Knowing

Set aside 15-20 minutes in a quiet space where you won't be interrupted. You can do this seated, lying down, or standing.

Step 1: Arrive in your body

Close your eyes and take three slow, deep breaths. Let your exhale be longer than your inhale. Feel your feet on the ground, your seat in the chair, or your back on the floor.

Place one hand on your heart and one on your belly. Notice the rise and fall of your breath beneath your palms. Let yourself land here, in this moment, in this body.

Step 2: Locate your inner knowing

Bring your awareness inward and ask: "Where does my intuition live in my body?"

There's no right answer. For some, it's a flutter in the chest. For others, a sensation in the belly, a tightening in the throat, or a softening in the heart.

Place your hand on the part of your body that feels most alive when you ask this question. Breathe into that space.

Let your body know: "I am here. I am listening."

Step 3: Recall a moment of self-trust

Bring to mind a time when you listened to your intuition and were grateful you did. It can be a big moment or something small.

Let yourself remember it fully. What did your body feel like in that moment? What sensations arose when you honored your knowing?

Breathe that feeling in. Let your body remember what self-trust feels like. This is your home base. This is the felt sense you are returning to.

Step 4: Tend to the parts that have stopped trusting

Now gently bring to mind a moment when you didn't listen to yourself. When you overrode your inner voice to keep the peace, to be liked, or to stay safe.

Notice where this lives in your body. Is there heaviness? Tightness? Numbness?

Place your hand there and breathe into it slowly. Don't try to fix or push it away.

Ask: "What were you trying to protect me from?"

Listen for what arises. Let this part of you speak. It may have been protecting you from rejection, from being too much, from being seen, from being hurt again.

When it's done sharing, thank this part of you for showing up, or offer a gesture of acknowledgment if that feels supportive.

Step 5: Anchor your knowing

Take a few slow breaths and place your hands wherever feels most grounding. Feel your body as a whole. Feel yourself as a whole.

Say aloud or silently if it feels good: "My body is wise. My intuition is real. I can trust myself."

Step 6: Integration

Slowly open your eyes. Find your journal and write down anything that came up. What did your body show you? What part of you spoke? What is one small way you can honor your inner knowing this week?

Journal Prompts

This week, notice the small ways your intuition speaks to you.

The flutter in your chest when something feels off. The ease when you're aligned. The quiet "not this" that arrives before your mind has caught up.

And notice where you talk yourself out of listening. The moments you override that knowing to keep the peace, to be liked, to avoid the discomfort of being seen.

Each time you notice, you have a chance to choose differently.

This is how trust is rebuilt. One small, choice at a time.

May you listen a little more closely to yourself this week.

Shay

P.S. Learning to trust yourself again is the heart of Becoming the One. The real shift in love happens when you stop looking outside of yourself for the answers and start listening to the wisdom that has been within you all along.

In this book, I walk you through understanding your attachment patterns, tending to your nervous system, and ending the cycle of self abandonment, so you can show up to love from wholeness instead of fear.

If you're ready to come home to yourself in your relationships, you can get your copy of my book here.