Hi friend,
Shifting how we feel and show up in relationships often begins with subtle nervous system work.
It’s less about big, flashy breakthroughs and more about steady, gentle rewiring.
In personal growth spaces, we often see “rah-rah” approaches. These can be amazing for self-expression, getting comfortable being seen, or simply having fun. But when it comes to deeper nervous system repatterning, subtlety is key.
Healing relationship anxiety isn’t always about dramatic emotional breakthroughs. More often, it’s about learning to feel safe through small, steady shifts — the moments where you choose not to abandon yourself.
At times, this work can feel so gentle you might wonder if anything is happening. It can even feel frustrating.
And then, slowly, you notice:
Your responses shift.
You feel more grounded, less fearful.
You show up differently.
Relationship anxiety is rooted in fear. And it’s in our ability to hold ourselves in those moments of fear that healing truly begins ✨💕
Inside this week’s newsletter, you’ll find:
💗 Somatic Practice: Returning Your Energy to Yourself
A body based practice designed to help you come back to yourself when your energy has been pulled into uncertainty, waiting, or overextending for connection. This exploration invites you to slow down, gather your attention inward, and reconnect with the steady support of your own body, so you can feel more grounded, present, and anchored within yourself.
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🔥 What's New at Rising Woman:
Applications for my 2026 SOMA Business Mastermind are now open…
SOMA is my year-long mentorship for soul-led entrepreneurs, healers, and creatives who feel called to grow their visibility, impact, and income in a way that actually feels aligned.
If you’ve been feeling the pull to grow a soul-led business or personal brand — but find yourself stuck, unsure where to begin, or resistant to traditional marketing strategies — this may be for you.
Inside SOMA, we combine personalized business strategy with nervous system support, so you’re not just learning what to do… you’re becoming the person who can sustainably hold and receive the growth you’re calling in.
This is a space where your business is built from the inside out.
Where your offers evolve in real time.
Where you’re supported not just in strategy, but through the moments where visibility, expansion, and self-doubt arise.
Because real growth doesn’t happen overnight. It happens through integration, consistency, and the right support.
Founding member pricing is available until Friday, March 27th. After that, the investment for the year of mentorship will increase.
If you’ve been considering joining, this is the window to step in at the current rate and save $1,000.
👉 [Apply now] and if accepted, you’ll be invited to a 1:1 conversation with me to ensure it is a mutual fit before deciding to join.
🪐 Introducing the Mystic app
Inside the Mystic App, you get access to:
Daily, Weekly, and Monthly Horoscopes
Your Personal Birth Chart Reading
Compatibility Reports for Love and Relationships
Your Astrocartography Map (where your soul thrives on Earth)
Your Soul Timeline and Life Cycles
A Personalized Astro Calendar for your current transits
🕊️ The Latest Rising Woman Post:
🌿 This Weeks Reflection
Self-trust is built in the moments you choose yourself over someone else’s approval.
✨ Practice for the Week: A Gentle Practice for Building Safety From Within
This practice is about learning to stay with yourself in moments of activation, rather than trying to eliminate the feeling.
1. Arrive and Orient
Take a moment to notice where you are.
Let your eyes softly look around the room.
Name a few neutral or pleasant things you can see.
Feel the support beneath your body.
Taking a few moments to arrive and get present.
2. Notice Your Body
Bring attention inward and gently scan for sensation.
You might notice tightness, warmth, buzzing, heaviness, or numbness.
There is nothing to change.
Silently name what you feel:
Tightness in chest.
Flutter in stomach.
Pressure in throat.
If nothing is noticeable, that’s okay too.
3. Add Supportive Touch
Place one hand somewhere that feels comforting or neutral: heart, belly, ribs, arm, or even just hands resting together.
Feel the warmth and pressure of your hand.
Imagine this touch communicating:
I am here with you.
4. Breathe Without Forcing
Next place your awareness towards your breath. Let your breath be natural.
If it feels helpful, you can lengthen the exhale slightly to support calming your nervous system.
Notice how your body responds when nothing is being pushed.
5. Practice Staying With Yourself
Bring to mind a mildly activating relationship moment: not overwhelming, just something that creates a little tension.
Notice what shifts in your body. No need to do anything but see what you notice. Allowing your experience and any sensations to be there.
6. Pendulate Toward Neutral or Pleasant
Now shift your attention briefly to something that feels neutral or comforting: your feet, the chair, the room, your breath.
Then return to the activated sensation for a moment.
Then back to neutral.
This back-and-forth teaches your nervous system that intensity is not permanent and that safety is accessible.
7. Close With Integration
Ask yourself:
What feels even 2% different right now?
Maybe softer breathing.
More space in the chest.
Less urgency.
Or simply awareness.
Place a hand over your heart or body and acknowledge:
Something is shifting, even if it’s subtle.
Take one slow breath and return to your surroundings.
Journaling Prompts
Grounding in Your Current Experience
When anxiety shows up in my relationships, what does it feel like in my body?
What situations tend to activate fear or insecurity most quickly?
What do I usually do when I feel that fear — move toward, pull away, overthink, people-please, shut down?
Noticing Subtle Shifts
In what ways have my responses in relationships changed over time, even slightly?
When have I handled something differently than the “old me” would have?
What small signs tell me I am becoming more grounded or secure?
Safety and Self-Connection
What helps my body feel safer when I am triggered or anxious?
How do I currently comfort or support myself in difficult moments?
What would it look like to stay with myself instead of abandoning myself when fear arises?
Rewriting the Inner Experience of Fear
What am I most afraid will happen in relationships?
Where might these fears come from — past experiences, learned patterns, old wounds?
What reassurance does the scared part of me most need to hear?
Gentle Repatterning
What small, doable shifts could help me feel more steady in moments of uncertainty?
How can I practice responding rather than reacting?
What would “gentle progress” look like for me right now?
Building Inner Trust
When have I proven to myself that I can handle discomfort or uncertainty?
What qualities in me support resilience, even if I forget them sometimes?
What would trusting myself in love feel like in my body?
Integration and Forward Movement
If I continue showing up with patience and care, how might my relationships feel one year from now?
What does “safety in love” mean to me personally?
What is one compassionate message I want to carry with me this week?
Change in relationships doesn’t usually happen in one defining moment. It unfolds through the small ways you return to yourself again and again.
Each time you pause instead of react…
Each time you offer yourself reassurance instead of self-criticism…
Each time you stay present with discomfort rather than abandoning yourself…
You are teaching your nervous system that you are safe now.
Over time, these moments accumulate. What once felt overwhelming becomes manageable. What once triggered fear begins to feel neutral, or even calm.
This is how trust is rebuilt, not only with others, but within yourself.
If the shifts feel subtle, that doesn’t mean they aren’t powerful. The most lasting change often happens beneath the surface, long before it becomes visible on the outside.
Keep going.
Love,
Shay
P.S. If you’re ready to experience relationships with more ease — without the constant anxiety, self-doubt, or feeling like you have to chase love… Freedom From Relationship Anxiety is a 6-week journey designed to gently rewire anxious attachment patterns and heal the trust wound beneath them, so your body can learn what safety in love actually feels like.
If you feel the pull to build real inner security and shift your relationship patterns at the root, you can get started here.