Hi friend,
Sometimes the most powerful lesson you have to learn in a relationship is how to walk away.
Many of us stay way too long because we have compassion for the other person, we understand their trauma, or we simply do not want to fail.
We tell ourselves that if we can just love them a little better, be a little more patient, or hold a little more space, things will change.
But you are not responsible for holding someone else’s growth in your hands. Walking away may be the exact wake up call their soul needs.
There comes a point where swallowing your truth and accepting poor treatment becomes unbearable. A point where your body, your heart, and your nervous system can no longer pretend this is okay.
It is often in this moment that you begin to see more clearly what love actually needs to feel like.
If you are choosing a partner to build a life or a family with, let yourself pay attention to how their love actually lands in your body, not just how it sounds in your mind.
If you need this today, let it land gently. Clarity often arrives not as a sudden decision, but as a slow, honest remembering of what you deserve.
Inside this week’s newsletter, you’ll find:
💗 Somatic Practice: Returning to Your Inner Knowing
A gentle, body centred practice that supports you in noticing where you may be overriding your truth, reconnecting with your inner signals, and building the capacity to honour yourself when something no longer feels right.
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🌿 This Weeks Reflection
Endings do not mean you’ve failed. They are the moment you finally stop abandoning yourself and start honouring what your body has known all along.
✨ Practice for the Week: Returning to Your Inner Knowing
Step 1. Arriving into the body
Find a quiet place to sit or lie down.
Close your eyes. Let one hand rest on your heart and one hand rest on your lower belly.
Take a slow breath in through your nose. Long exhale through your mouth.
Do this a few times until you feel yourself settle.
Bring your awareness to the contact of your hands on your body. Feel the warmth. Feel the weight.
Let your nervous system know you are here.
Step 2. Bring to mind what you have been tolerating
Gently bring to mind a relationship or situation where you feel you have been staying longer than feels true for you.
Do not analyze it. Simply let the image or the felt sense of it come forward.
Notice what happens in your body as you do.
Does your chest tighten
Does your stomach clench
Do you feel heaviness, pressure, numbness, or restlessness
Just observe.
Step 3. Notice the place that knows
Shift your attention from the story to the sensation.
Ask quietly inside:
Where in my body do I feel that this is no longer okay?
Place a hand over that area if you can.
Breathe into that spot. Let it be felt without trying to change it.
This is the place in you that has been speaking.
Step 4. Imagine choosing yourself
Now gently imagine what it would feel like to honour this signal.
Just the felt sense of choosing yourself.
Notice what changes in your body when you imagine this.
Is there more space
More breath
A softening
A sense of relief
Stay with that sensation for a few breaths.
Step 5. Closing
Bring both hands back to your heart.
Take a few slow breaths.
Thank your body for communicating with you, even when it has been hard to hear.
When you are ready, gently open your eyes.
Carry this awareness with you.
Journaling Prompts
Where in my life have I been staying longer than feels true for me? What have I been telling myself about why I need to stay?
What part of me feels responsible for other people’s growth, healing, or wellbeing? Where did I learn that this was my role?
How does my body feel when I imagine continuing to tolerate what I have been tolerating? What sensations do I notice?
How does my body feel when I imagine choosing myself, even if it disappoints someone else?
In what ways have I been swallowing my truth to keep the peace?
What am I afraid would happen if I stopped holding everything together?
Where do I confuse compassion for someone else with abandoning myself?
What does love actually need to feel like in my body for me to feel safe, respected, and at ease?
Do I love the way this person loves me?
If I fully trusted that I am not responsible for someone else’s wake up call, what choice would feel most honest right now?
What would it look like to protect my own heart first?
Where might an ending actually be an act of love, for me and for them?
Walking away is never easy. This is the part we do not talk about enough. But sometimes it’s the medicine everyone needs.
No one else in this situation will protect your heart first. That role belongs to you.
And sometimes endings are the wake up call their soul needed too. Honouring yourself may be the gift that allows that to happen.
Love,
Shay
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