Hi friend,
There is a certain kind of love that reveals itself over time. Not in the intensity of early romance, but in the quiet feeling of being at home with another person.
Choose a partner you feel at home with. Somebody you can call a genuine and trusted friend. Beyond romantic love, friendship becomes the foundation.
As the years pass, it is not how you look or even how much passion there is that sustains a relationship. It’s the late night conversations, the quiet gaze shared over morning coffee, the moments of sitting side by side without needing to say a word.
Life is short, and it is also long. We live many versions of ourselves within one lifetime.
Choose somebody you genuinely want to grow and experience life with. Somebody willing to hold space for the versions of you that have yet to be born, and who can meet you with softness when old versions fall away.
Because loving someone over time means loving them through change. Dreams shift. Identities evolve. Seasons of closeness are followed by seasons that ask more of you.
The love that endures is not love that stays the same; it’s love that can move with the seasons.
In the end, it is friendship that carries love forward. Romantic love is beautiful, but over decades what remains is admiration, respect, and genuine care for one another. Choose a partner you can grow with.
Choose a partner you can be continually reshaped beside, again and again, as life invites you both to become.
Inside this week’s newsletter, you’ll find:
🎧 Podcast episode with Josh Trent on Wellness + Wisdom:
In this episode, I share how trauma bonds can make chaos feel like love, and how our nervous system becomes attached to intensity through cycles of conflict and repair. We explore the biology behind these patterns, along with my personal journey of losing myself in an abusive relationship and how that experience shaped my work helping people return to self trust and choose healthier love.
💗 Somatic Practice: Feeling at Home in Love
A gentle, body centered exploration that supports noticing where love feels steady, safe, and spacious in your body. This practice invites you to slow down, reconnect with your own sense of home within, and explore what it feels like to grow while remaining grounded in connection.
📲 New On Instagram: Recent posts and reflections from the feed.
🎙️ Latest podcast episode with Josh Trent on Wellness + Wisdom
Toxic Love: How Your Hormones Keep You Addicted To Bad Partners
🕊️ The Latest Rising Woman Posts:
🌿 This Weeks Reflection
Love that lasts is not built on staying the same, but on the willingness to keep meeting each other as you both change.
✨ Practice for the Week: Feeling at Home in Love
Step 1. Arriving in the Body
Find a comfortable seated or lying position. Allow your eyes to close or soften.
Take a few slow breaths, letting the exhale be slightly longer than the inhale. Notice the places where your body is already supported. The chair beneath you. The ground under your feet. The feeling of being held without needing to do anything.
Ask yourself gently: What does “home” feel like in my body right now?
There is nothing to change, just see what you notice.
Step 2. Noticing Safety and Softness
Bring one hand to your heart or your belly. Feel the warmth of your own touch.
As you breathe, notice any sensations of ease, warmth, or openness. Even subtle moments count. If your mind wanders, gently return to sensation.
Allow the body to remember what steadiness feels like, independent of anyone else.
Step 3. Welcoming Change
Now bring awareness to the idea that you are not the same person you were a year ago. Let yourself acknowledge the ways you have grown or shifted.
Notice what happens in your body as you consider this. Is there expansion, resistance, grief, relief? All responses are welcome.
Step 4. Imagining Connection
If it feels supportive, bring to mind someone you feel safe or at ease with. Notice what happens in your body as you imagine sitting beside them in silence. No performance. No effort. Just shared presence.
Sense the difference between needing connection and resting inside of it.
Step 5. Integration
Take a final slow breath. Notice your body again, the room around you, the steadiness beneath you.
As you open your eyes, carry this question with you:
Where in my life does love feel like home, and how can I return to that feeling more often?
Journaling Reflection: Love, Friendship, and Growing Together
When do I feel most at home in relationship? What qualities or moments create that feeling for me?
How do I experience friendship inside of romantic love? Where does it feel strong, and where could it be nurtured more intentionally?
In what ways have I changed over the past few years? How has my relationship responded to those changes?
What parts of me feel easy to share in relationship, and what parts still feel tender or protected?
When conflict or distance arises, what am I most afraid of losing? What am I most hoping to receive?
What does admiration and respect look like in everyday moments, not just during the good times?
Where am I being invited to grow a little more softness or understanding toward my partner, or toward myself?
What does growing together actually mean to me at this stage of my life?
If love is something that moves through seasons, what season does my relationship feel like it is in right now?
What would it look like to choose connection and friendship again, even while things are changing?
What carries love forward is not perfection, but the willingness to keep meeting each other again. To keep choosing friendship, respect, and care as the ground you return to.
A lasting partnership is built in the ordinary moments. In shared mornings, in quiet understanding, in the feeling of being known and still welcomed as you continue to change.
Choose a partnership that allows you to grow, to soften, and to become. A love where both people have space to live many lives, side by side.
Love,
Shay
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