Hi friend,
Healing does not mean you will eliminate hard feelings like sadness, anger, disappointment, or even jealousy. It simply means you are widening your capacity to be with discomfort in your body as it arises.
So much healing work is focused on getting rid of discomfort, rather than helping us learn how to be with it. But work that aims to eliminate all discomfort asks you to sever yourself from your own humanity. Feeling is never wrong. Your emotions are not evidence that something is broken.
Healing is learning how to validate, allow, and respond to your big emotions rather than trying to eject from your experience. It begins with something very small and very brave. Learning how to pause for just a moment instead of instantly reacting, numbing, lashing out, or leaving your body.
Over time, as the nervous system heals, your capacity to hold your inner world with compassion and curiosity expands. And when you can stay with yourself in the depths of your experience, you gain the ability to truly stay with another. This is the foundation of secure attachment.
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💗 Somatic Practice: Learning How to Stay
A gentle, body centered exploration that supports you in slowing down, sensing what is present, and building the capacity to stay with yourself in moments of discomfort.
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🌿 This Weeks Reflection
Healing is not the elimination of discomfort, but the widening of your capacity to be with it.
✨ Practice for the Week: Learning How to Stay
Set up
Find a place where you can sit or lie down comfortably. Let your body be supported. You are not trying to get anywhere or feel a certain way. This is a practice of being with what is already here.
Arrive
Begin by noticing your breath without changing it. Feel the inhale arrive. Feel the exhale leave. If it feels supportive, place one hand on your chest and one on your belly, or anywhere your body naturally wants contact.
Orient
Gently look around the room and name a few things you can see. Let your eyes land on what feels neutral or pleasant. Allow your nervous system to register that in this moment, you are safe enough to be here.
Sense the body
Bring your attention inward. Notice any sensations that are present. This could be tightness, warmth, heaviness, fluttering, or ease. You do not need to label them as good or bad. Simply notice where they live in your body.
Practice staying
Choose one sensation that feels workable, not the most intense one. Stay with it for a few breaths. Notice if your system wants to tense, distract, or move away. If it does, that is okay. Gently return your attention to the sensation, reminding yourself that feeling is not wrong.
Meet yourself
Silently offer yourself a simple phrase, such as:
I am here with you
I do not need to fix this
I can feel this and stay present
Notice how your body responds to being met this way.
Widen the field
After a few moments, widen your awareness to include your whole body again. Feel the support beneath you. Feel the room around you. Let the sensation you were tracking soften or shift in its own time.
Close
Before ending the practice, ask yourself: What does my body need right now
Honor whatever answer arises, even if it is small.
Journaling Prompts
Staying With Yourself
What emotions have I been trying to get rid of or move past lately?
Where do I feel discomfort most clearly in my body when something difficult arises?
What does it look like for me to stay instead of react or withdraw?
Relating to Discomfort
What stories have I learned about which emotions are acceptable or unacceptable?
How do I usually respond when discomfort shows up in my body?
What might change if I allowed myself to feel without needing to fix anything?
Nervous System Awareness
How do I know when my system feels overwhelmed or unsafe?
What helps me pause, even briefly, before reacting?
What does compassion toward my inner experience feel like in my body?
Attachment & Inner Safety
In what moments do I ignore my own feelings or needs in order to keep the peace or stay close to someone?
When I fear conflict, abandonment, or disconnection, what do I notice myself doing in my body?
What becomes possible in my relationships when I stay grounded in myself instead of chasing reassurance?
Integration
What is one small way I can practice staying with myself this week?
What does choosing presence over avoidance look like in my daily life?
How do I want to relate to my emotions moving forward?
Healing is not about mastering your emotions or rising above them. It is about learning how to stay present when they arrive, and to meet yourself with care instead of judgment. Each time you pause, feel, and respond with compassion, you are building the inner safety that makes real connection possible.
This is the work beneath the work. The quiet practice of staying with yourself so you do not abandon yourself in moments that matter. And when you can stay with yourself, even in discomfort, you create the conditions for deeper intimacy, clearer communication, and a more conscious way of relating to others and to life itself.
Love,
Shay
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