Hi friend,
Relationships go through seasons that mirror the seasons of the earth.
Each season carries its own gifts and its own lessons, whether we want them or not. Part of conscious relationship is learning to trust that what is unfolding is not random, but meaningful.
We are often marketed a version of relationship that is quite inauthentic. One that suggests love should always feel easy, passionate, and effortless, as if something has gone wrong the moment it does not.
But long term relationships have cycles. It is not always summer.
When autumn and winter arrive, it is time to ask different questions. What patterns or unconscious contracts are up for evaluation now? What ways of relating may have once served, but no longer do? What is ready to be released so something more honest and life giving can emerge?
The relationship itself does not have to die, but some of the unconscious dynamics within it might.
This is why looking for a perfect partner who has it all figured out will always lead to disappointment. They do not exist. What does exist is the possibility of a partner who is willing to stay present, to reflect, and to commit to forever unlearning and growing alongside you.
This is the medicine of conscious relationship. Knowing when to ride the waves of change. Being willing to weather new seasons together. And sometimes, when it truly feels like winter, being brave enough to go all the way into what needs to die so that something truer can be born.
There is no perfect relationship. Only seasons. Ebbs and flows. Periods of ease and periods of deep transformation.
May we have the humility to ask for help, the courage to look honestly at ourselves, and the willingness to come back to love again and again.
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💗 Somatic Practice: Honouring the Season You Are In
A gentle, body centered exploration that invites you to slow down, listen to your body, and sense what is ready to be released and what is quietly asking to grow within your relationship.
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🌿 This Weeks Reflection
Long term relationships have cycles. It is not always summer.
✨ Practice for the Week: Honouring the Season of Your Relationship
1. Arrive in your body
Sit somewhere comfortable.
Place one hand on your heart and one hand on your lower belly.
Take a slow breath in through your nose, and let the exhale fall out of your mouth.
Give yourself a moment to arrive. Feel the support beneath you. Sense the contact of your hands.
There is no need to define where you are right now. Simply let your body show you the truth of the season you are in.
2. Meet the part of you that loved the honeymoon phase
Bring to mind the early days of your relationship.
The ease.
The spark.
The feeling of being chosen.
Notice what happens inside your body as you remember this.
Warmth. Softness. Grief. Longing. Excitement. See what you notice.
Let your breath widen around what you feel, without needing to hold on or push it away.
3. Sense the places that have shifted since then
Now gently sense into the parts of you that have been revealed over time.
Your tenderness.
Your fears.
Your patterns.
Your deeper truths.
Let your hands move to wherever you notice sensation in your body. Stay with the sensation of being seen in the places you once hid.
Notice how your body responds to being met with this kind of presence.
4. Feel into the death phase
Every long term relationship moves through moments that feel like something is dying.
An old story.
An old pattern.
An old way of relating.
Gently ask your body: What is ready to be released right now?
It may arrive as a heaviness in the chest, a tightness in the jaw, a drop in the belly, or a quiet whisper of honesty.
Breathe into that place.
5. Invite the rebirth
Bring your hands back to your heart.
Ask yourself: What wants to grow between us now?
Let this be felt in sensation rather than words.
Maybe warmth spreads.
Maybe you feel more grounded.
Maybe the breath deepens.
Allow your body to show you the next direction of devotion. This is the beginning of rebirth.
6. Seal the practice
Place both hands on your chest or belly.
Let your breath settle. Give yourself one final moment of stillness.
When you feel ready, gently return to your day.
Journaling Prompts
If I were to name the season my relationship is in right now, what would it be and why?
What feels like it is asking for more attention, honesty, or care in this season of my relationship?
Are there any patterns, roles, or unconscious agreements I sense are ready for evaluation or release?
What part of me resists this season and what part of me understands its purpose?
In what ways might I be holding my relationship to an unrealistic or outdated expectation of what love should look like?
What would it look like to meet this season with more presence rather than urgency or blame?
Where am I co creating connection and harmony right now and where might I be contributing to distance without realizing it?
If something within this relationship were ready to die so something truer could emerge, what might that be?
What kind of support, conversation, or care would help me move through this season with more honesty and compassion?
If you find yourself in a tender season right now, know that you are not doing anything wrong.
Periods of contraction, uncertainty, and change are not signs of failure. They are often invitations to slow down, to listen more closely, and to come back into presence with yourself and with one another.
Conscious relationship asks us to reality check the stories we tell ourselves. To notice whether we are co creating more connection and harmony, or unconsciously contributing to disconnection. This is an invitation into awareness, where choice begins.
There is no finish line. There is only the ongoing practice of showing up, repairing when you miss each other, and choosing love in the small moments that matter most.
May you meet this season with compassion. May you ask for support when you need it. And may you remember that even in winter, something wise is always taking root beneath the surface
Love,
Shay
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